creative, smart, idealist, loner, attracted to sad things, disorganized, avoidant, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, prone to quitting, prone to feelings of loneliness, ambivalent of the rules, solitary, daydreams about people to maintain a sense of closeness, focus on fantasies, acts without planning, low self confidence, emotionally moody, can feel defective, prone to lateness, likes esoteric things, wounded at the core, feels shame, frequently losing things, prone to sadness, prone to dreaming about a rescuer, disorderly, observer, easily distracted, does not like crowds, can act without thinking, private, can feel uncomfortable around others, familiar with the darkside, hermit, more likely to support marijuana legalization, can sabotage self, likes the rain, sometimes can’t control fearful thoughts, prone to crying, prone to regret, attracted to the counter culture, can be submissive, prone to feeling discouraged, frequently second guesses self, not punctual, not always prepared, can feel victimized, prone to confusion, prone to irresponsibility, can be pessimistic
Cutting my hours at work was the best decision I ever made. It will definitely make for a memorable last 5 weeks of college.
Found a hot dress for $5, ate at the newly opened Chipotle in my town with a friend last week, catching up on all the sleep, going on the Parkway and Grandfather mountain, seeing the new Captain America movie, working a little more on my novel idea (though I think I was working more on it even before the cut hours), getting to go to church a little bit more, not coming home after midnight from working and staying up until 3 am, getting to exercise a tiny bit more, and… still procrastinating on my homework and book reading. Ha. I have been anything but productive, but I am feeling a lot better about my life. I can’t tell if it’s helping with my anxiety or not. Because sometimes more free time means I have more time to over think… but besides that, life is pretty okay. Could be better, but it could be worse too.
"THIS PICTURE WILL NOT CHANGE THE WORLD, BUT I STILL NEED FEMINISM AND I’M GOING TO REALLY, REALLY TELL YOU WHY":
-Because I got called a whore for wearing a short plaid skirt when I was 10
-and because when Nujood Ali from Yemen was 10 she got divorced
-Because black girls’ names became my classmates’ favorite “joke” when I was 11
-and because when an 11-year-old girl in Texas was raped by 18 men the New York Times wrote of how the girl “dressed older than her age”
-Because I started counting calories when I was 14
-and because when Malala Yousafzai was 14 she was shot in the head for trying to go to school
-Because I heard a boy greet a girl with “hey slut” today at age 16
-and because when a 16-year-old girl in Steubenville, Ohio was filmed being raped by two boys at a party while unconscious the CNN reporters talked about how tragic it was because the rapists had such bright futures as athletes
-Because I will have to watch my drink at all bars and parties when I am 22
-and because when CeCe McDonald was 22 she was sentenced to 41 months in prison for defending herself against a man who screamed transphobic, racist insults at her and then slashed her face with a bottle
-Because no matter what age I am the biggest threat to men will still be heart disease, and the biggest threat to women will still be men.
-Because it is not just about me, because it is not just about anger, because it is not just a JOKE, because it is not just about “hating men,” because it is not just about girls with vaginas, because it is not just about ending “slut”, because it is not just about white straight girls in Rookie magazine, because it is not just about writing on backs, because it is not just about the fact that gay men are “fags” but lesbians are “hot,” because it is not just about pictures of thin white girls being the only google image results for the search phrase “beautiful women”, because it is not just about writing signs, because it is not just about what she was wearing or how many times she said yes before she changed her answer to no, because misogyny is not just about one thing and feminism is not just about one thing and it is not just “a trend” and it will not “happen” in just one way.
-And because yes. It is about equality for EVERYONE, but first and foremost it needs to be about equality for girls, because they are not treated equally to men, in every single sense, and you are not going to take feminism away from me and call me bossy/hostile/aggressive and make this about yourself or make it into a joke, because truth be told, I’m not joking and I’m tired of explaining. If you want to call yourself a feminist, you work hard to spread feminism, you do not turn this into a contest of whose struggle is greater and constantly demand to know what you can get out of feminism personally. Feminism is not just about you, or me, it is about everyone. If you’re male and you’re tired of men being stereotyped as hyper-masculine, soulless, sexist, inherent leader-tyrant creatures, then go out and prove the patriarchy wrong and fight for girls, like someone with a soul who believes in equality would. Then, yes, feminism will be about everyone.
-Sylvie (an amazing grrrl godess)
Photo taken by Caroline http://c-h-0-w.tumblr.com/
The confusing thing about all this is that women are objectified in the media which makes men think it’s okay to have these behaviors. But when you say women should not objectify themselves in the media, feminists say they have the right to.
I don’t think this issue will ever ever be resolved until feminist realize we are painting contradicting pictures for men out there.
We need to teach men how to treat women. But a lot has to do with media portrayal. Especially from a young age. Boys will be exposed to millions of images of how they should view women. Than the media tells young boys that to be a man you have to have sex, lots of sex, have a sex drive, fulfill your urges. The media shows women as dumb, mindless, objects whose only purpose is to fulfill their urges. I don’t think it’s a strictly feminist issue. If you want to change this problem you have to be willing to explain your mind and see the psychology in this. Women are not the only ones getting mixed messages (i.e Be beautiful, but not too sexy, etc). Men are getting, “You can look. You can experience. You can watch. You can desire. But don’t touch.” «< This is important to understanding the male side of things.
On a positive note, I do very much like the last paragraph of this especially. I would have been annoyed somewhat with this post if they had not included equality for all people, not just make it about females.
do you ever just realise you’re almost an adult and you have no money
What really sucks is when you realize that you are 100% an adult and you still have no money. But then you learn how to appreciate things that don’t cost anything, if you’re smart. Or you get a second job. Or a third one. Or all of the above.
The every day (good) writer should make more money…But I’m sure the lovely Miss. Anderson is doing what she loves and that in itself is wonderful.
Two weeks ago I wrote about the verb to beÂ plaguing me. Now the monkey on my back is obsessing over my WIP’s (work in progress) word count. Word count has always been a bit of a sore subject for me…
Trying to figure how long your YA novel should be? READ THIS!